Grief is defined as a deep or intense sorrow.
I have been thinking a lot about grief, about it's wide and sticky reach, about the watery quality of it's absorption and the agonizing effort of swimming to shore.
Intense sorrow happens. It is a part of life. Yet we press against it. We try to eradicate it. How? We encapsulate our grief in a story, thus effectively removing us from the immediacy of the pain. The mind promises salvation and begins to tell a story, over and over and over. We listen to the inner ramblings, the constant diatribe, the neurotic attempt to avoid the experience. When someone is hurting we listen to their story, we talk about it, we recount our own story, but we certainly don't jump in the waters of sadness, instead we sit on the bank of our familiar longing. Once, when I was floundering in deep grief, my youngest brother knelt next to me and held me for over an hour. He didn't speak. He didn't commiserate. He just jumped in the water beside me, holding me close and lending me his promise of shore. It was one of the most treasured moments of my life. I wonder if we, as fellow humans, could embody this simple wisdom and stand amidst the sorrow, without resisting it and allow it to pass through us, to transform us, to grow us, to breathe us, to carry us sweetly and perfectly to shore. I wonder.