Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment.
-Eckhart Tolle - A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose
YEAH BABY! No use hiding under the covers. We are talking about gratitude even for those kick your ass, knock you down and run you over moments. I recently read a wonderful book called F*CK It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way (Thanks Neal!). The author suggests that instead of saying "let go" or "relax" or "surrender", all of which can become cerebral in no time, we simply say "f*ck it".
So that man you love doesn't love you back. F*ck it.
So you are afraid you won't have enough money. F*ck it.
So you don't know what the hell you are doing, where you are going or where you have been. F*ck it.
There is an immediate relaxation response and a sort of visceral, full body sigh that accompanies that simple phrase.
So whatever is up we can simply let it be exactly as it is and when we constrict and tighten and judge and shame ourselves we can just take a deep breath and on the exhale say, "F*CK IT!"